tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6418804066273923689.post5966161614973706838..comments2023-08-30T15:59:09.147-04:00Comments on Confessions of a 40-something, wanna-be Solid Gold-dancing Breck Girl: Does Time Really Heal?tiaramesuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10037370513148227863noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6418804066273923689.post-70963891645563307532013-05-20T21:27:47.708-04:002013-05-20T21:27:47.708-04:00Love you, too! Love you, too! tiaramesuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10037370513148227863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6418804066273923689.post-8413914786457033622013-05-20T20:47:40.119-04:002013-05-20T20:47:40.119-04:00I dont think you friends philosophy was condescend... I dont think you friends philosophy was condescending at all........I find it to be the truth in most cases. Like the line from "the boxer" .... a man believes what he wants to believe and disregards the rest."<br /> THere are 5 stages to the greiving process and you can google that I' m sure and see if you've made it through this process....but I'm pretty sure you havent being... that in most cases the process is at least a 5 year term. And I will agree that you are not numb as you are "feeling"<br /> My brother is not dealing with his grief in a good way, although he thinks he is.And therefore his process could take longer. He's progressed well with certain things and not so good with others, meaning I guess he keep repeating the steps instead of working all the way through. But everyone grieves differently. its just getting though this process and still living your life is important. You will never really get over this loss and it is a learning process but yet it will repeat itself and manifest differently with each loss, some much deeper that what you are experiencing. Grief can also manifest itself it something other than the death of a person, could be the death of a habit...something so ingrained in your everyday life that you give up or lose.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6418804066273923689.post-74945018202432436432013-05-20T20:36:14.704-04:002013-05-20T20:36:14.704-04:00Well done, Sue. I think the healing and the numbne...Well done, Sue. I think the healing and the numbness are like alternating waves washing against the shore. Sometimes we need a little numbness just to survive and function, but the next wave will be along shortly and the healing will come. Will it ever be complete? Who knows ... I teared up reading this blog and reflecting on the loved ones I missed so deeply at times. <br /><br />And to your acquaintance who refers to ones faith as a crutch ... at times it is, but then at other times, it is an amazing magic wand! It enhances the innate power in my heart and directs it where I want it to go. It protects me and those I love. It spreads the light so I need never feel fear. <br /><br />My two cents worth <3 Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10836739280483496092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6418804066273923689.post-91026810436960931572013-05-20T20:24:01.806-04:002013-05-20T20:24:01.806-04:00love you xoxoxlove you xoxoxMarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027954226798117530noreply@blogger.com